The Last Wedding As A Hairstylist:

The Shock, The Sad and The Happy

As I was touching up the beautiful brides makeup before her BIG SPECIAL day. We were laughing and giggling as we pose for the photographer, then I had an epiphany that is was going to be the last wedding I will ever do as a hairstylist and make-up artist.

I blurted it out “ You know this is most likely my last wedding I will ever do”.. The Bride looked at me and said “Omg, really? I feel so honored” and The Photographer said “ What? but you are so awesome, come back to the dark side”

The Shock:

When I spoke those words out loud it made it real. I knew I wanted to pursue my life coaching more and dig my heels into my coaching career.

Saying it out loud was a whole other battle with my ego and my pride. I have been in the hair industry since I was 16 (i am now 35) and a stylist for 17+ years. I was letting go a THRIVING + FLOURISHING business. My pride and ego were in the back of mind saying “Are you sure you want to do that, your too old for a new career, you spent the last 17 years building a career + now you’re letting go?”.

Those voices can really knock you back into that comfort zone… The trick there is To BELIEVE in your change and your future..

The Sad:

After the wedding fun and wedding booze faded the sad + fear came.. I became a sad coach potato, I was all caught up in my thoughts and I did NOTHING (for days).. All I could think about was WHAT DID I DO?.

My depression HIT ME HARD

Quick background, I have suffered with depression and severe lows since my teens.. So when I say HIT ME HARD, I mean it.

On the couch with blankets and my filth, I constantly asked myself, ” What am I doing? Am I making a mistake? Am I dumb for giving up a 17+ year career? Am I crazy?”

I truly was paralyzed in my thoughts and fears, not knowing how to get over the slump. I was listening to this voice I like to call my voice of Judgment who is telling me I suck, I can’t do anything different and I am stuck. I knew I needed to process this Judgment but I also knew I needed to get the hell out of this rut because I know deep down leaving the salon was the best decision.

I needed to TRUST MYSELF AGAIN!

The Happy:

After many days of being a hot a** mess,

I thought to myself what would I tell my coaching clients if they were in this situation.. I would tell them they have to get through the fear to reach they’re happy..

I started listening to this other voice I like to call my Voice of Wisdom telling me I Know Best, I know that this is my correct path and that I have the strength to do anything I want put my mind to.

(Voice of Wisdom = my positive mind)

Those next few days I journaled like a mad woman, I started writing everything down that I was grateful for, all my strengths, my most proud moments and I even wrote a letter from my future self telling me all that I accomplished!

Then the HAPPY started peaking out like the sunrise, I knew I was on headed in the right direction!

The Moral of The Story:

The most important part of this whole story is this process is necessary, as long as you make it to the other side. The side where your GOALS kicks Fear in a**.

You always know what is best for you no matter what!

YAK = You always know

Trust your instincts!

… As a Life Coach I am here to tell you that you can achieve anything with action!!

I know it may seem so far away and it is so comfortable where you are but staying in your comfort zone doesn’t get you to your goals, dreams and desires.

BELIEF IS THE FIRST STEP!

Xo Shell